Tell them your BEHAVIOR is naughty - Garbage Art for Kids

How difficult it is for children to lose graciously

How do you teach children to lose graciously? Wherever you look in this society, everybody is running a race. We are teaching our children that only “the best” counts. That losing is wrong. We praise our children for being successful, give them grades, and when they are not successful we are disappointed. Our educational system sorts our children on intellect, sports performance, and externals.

The result is

Those children are going to be unreasonably mad when they are losing a game or a contest which reaches totally beyond their capability. That is not odd because we have taught them exactly this behavior by telling them from their earliest age that winning is important.

Let them feel

unconditional love
their inner beauty
they are important, whatever they accomplish

Let them know you appreciate their

love
empathy
helpfulness
attention
sensitivity
self-confidence

Stop the rat race and the pressure to perform by

shifting your attention of the winning part to the sentient part.
teaching children that mutual contact is more important than winning.
playing a lot of games and emphasize the atmosphere around it.
applauding the entire team, not just the one that scores.
pricing the intention, despite the result.
taking out the competition element.

You teach children to lose graciously by giving them unconditional love and attention. They do not to compete for your love by performing the way you want them to.

And do not ever tell your children:

you ARE naughty,
or you ARE stupid,
or you ARE unpleasant

I even heard a father say: “You are a pain in the ass.”

Tell them your BEHAVIOR is naughty, or what you DO is unacceptable, or what you DID was a bit stupid.

Because what they ARE and what they DO are two completely different things. It is very important you give your children self-confidence by telling them constantly who they are. And that you are leading them in their behavior