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A child with annoying behavior
how can you break bad habits

 

It can really amaze me how some children behave, and that some parents really do not understand how this behavior did arose. They really do not seem to get there own responsibility in that fact. When you do not have a clue why your child is misbehaving, it is time for some self-reflection.

Be aware of the fact, that every time you give in just for once, you have to correct misbehavior 30 times afterwards.
  • When your child can not sleep and wants to sleep in your bed, you are tired and say, oké, just this once…..
  • Your child is nagging for a sweety in the supermarket, and you give in just for once…..
  • Your child comes out of bed, and you let it watch TV for a while just for once…..
  • When you let your child play with unsuitable toys just for once…..

(unsuitable toys, your keys, remote controls, mobile phones etc. you better learn them from the earliest beginning to keep their hands of your and other people’s things)

Tips for parents before go shopping, when repeatedly everything goes wrong :
  • Decide before you go into the store, how you will react when your child will misbehave.
  • Make a list for what is needed and stick to it, so you can give your attention to the kids.
  • Talk to your kids before leaving and tell them which behavior you expect from them.
  • One child can help putting the listed groceries into the cart, the others will sit in the cart or have their turn the next time. When you let 2 children help, you are asking for a quarrel.
Tell them:
  • To keep their hands from anything in the store.
  • That you expect them to stay with you in the store.
  • That you will not allow nagging.

Make a deal and set an award before you go shopping and remind them,  just before entering the store, to the bargain you made.

The award can be something like:

  • baking cookies together
  • extra tablet time
  • bathtime instead of shower
  • choose which veggie to eat
  • go afterwards to the park or playground

Do not start giving kids food in the supermarket just for once….

Do not tolerate any crap, like eyerolling, funny voices, baby behavior or nagging.

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  • Very important! Be attentive and give a compliment about every good behavior
  • Set up an award program
  • Be consequent, when they reach the age of 14, you can start negotiation.
  • Be sure you can carry out the restriction at once, do what you say you will.
  • Threat only with punishment you can implement
  • Give only punishment where you will not be a victum of
  • Negotiate is out of the question
  • Give a time – out
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Time – out

You can set up an award system, I use the “tumb-up” system, they get an award when they have earned 50 tumbs!

And they can earn them on every occasion where I like to see a change.

To mention a few:

  • Wash their hands after going to the toilet and turn of the light
  • Nice playing with each other for an hour
  • Without any quarrel walk to and out of school
  • Set the table for lunch
  • Neatly talk no weird words, no smart mouth or talking back
  • Sometimes spontaniously, when their behavior is really helpful

Charts you can copy and print for your own use.

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7 Tips for Talking About Racism With Kids

7 Tips for Talking About Racism With Kids

When we look around, especially in big cities, we have to admit we are a colorful mixed race.

7 Tips for Talking About Racism With Kids
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In the passing of the years, your child can pick up some prejudices you don’t like to see in or hear from your child. It is a new balance you want to create in your child, but how can you handle this.

Tradition

Traditionally it’s baked into our genes to belong to a group or a movement. People who look alike or thinks alike, family and friends first. And we, as parents, show our children in daily life that this is normal. We talk about other beliefs as if they are not right. Talk about poor people (antisocial) as if they don’t count. We often won’t live up to the example, the example your kids need to be objective. So before you are reading my tips, keep in mind in what way you are steering your kid towards some conclusions

I like to give you a few tips on how you can react to this delicate subject.

1. Talk about it, and let your child talk about it.

Do not be tempted to ban the thought of your child.
Ask questions, why your child thinks about another that way.
Try to find out “the Why”, perhaps it is just an innocent reply,
which is applicable to every person, and totally not race-related.
Has it to do with the group your child wants to belong to?
And in what way are you the example in belonging to a group.

2. When the “Why” is clear, take every opportunity to adjust your child

When it is a minor issue on pre-school, ask the mom and the child over to visit sometime.
When your child is older, perhaps you can start some voluntary work together.

3. Give response in child language

Talk to your child in a way they can understand.
7 Tips for Talking About Racism With Kids

4. Be open and honest

Tell them, that there are, among all races, good and bad people. That they can’t trust everyone, whether they are from the west, the east, the south or the north. And if they have questions about who to trust and who not, you will be always there to advise them.

5. Be an example, live on to your words

Sit down, next to the outlander in the park, and give a friendly smile and greeting, rather than walk around them with an air and sit down on the next bench.

Do not make faces or make comments to your children when you pass someone who looks different.

6. Go to a cultural event

Look around if there is a bazaar or a performance in a park provided by a cultural organization. And take your children there to taste some of the food and get familiar with the people.

7 Tips for Talking About Racism With Kids

7. Give some history

Once there were only a handful human beings on the earth. But the group became too large, there was no food enough for the whole group, so they split up. Some went to the North and West, some to the South and East. The people adapted themselves to the conditions where they lived. They went off in a group with their own genetic material, and grow into a specific human race. You can explain it the easiest way to a child to say, when a black man and a white woman are getting a child, the child will not be totally black nor totally white, it will become a mixture of both.

Racism is based on ignorance of the other, so if you want to do something against racism, make sure you understand the other.

Some people are very proud to be part of the specific race they were born into, and try to keep everything separated. One man in particularly wrote his own history page with it. His name was Hitler because he thought that his race was the only one who had the right to exist. So he stirred up the people with slogans as “they are the guilty ones that our economic is going down”. The result was that millions of people from specific races and groups were killed. Not only Jews, but also homosexuals, gypsies and ‘economically unworthy’ as physically and mentally handicapped, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Free Bible Students, trade unionists, Freemasons, Communists, Spanish republicans, Serbs, Quakers, and people who oppose the Nazis, were persecuted and murdered.

Teach your children, you’re not better, you’re different!

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