Jeffrey is a very creative boy, and when he starts out with a new idea, he just asks, do you have…. within no time the table is filled with material. And Jeffrey is working on his project from the battlefield. It’s really amusing to watch him 🙂
4 chestnuts, 2 toothpicks, 2 sate sticks, cotton thread and chenille thread. He stuck it to the cardboard with Scottish tape
10 toothpicks, 1 sate stick, 2 chestnuts, cotton thread, puppets drawn on paper, stuck on the cardboard with Scottish tape.
2 ice sticks with holes in it (Dremel drill) 5 toothpicks, 2 chestnuts, 2 sate sticks, Ducktape and double-sided tape which he used to stuck the chestnuts to the cardboard.
A jar lid, sand and 2 sided tape to stick it to the cardboard.
Iron wire to make the frame and an ice stick for the seesaw. 2 paper puppets. The puppets are stick on the seesaw with double-sided tape. The frame is hooked to the cardboard.
The mother on bench
The bench he made of ice sticks connected with Ducktape. The mother is made of chenille thread and has a circle-skirt. She is taped to the bench with double-sided tape.
The Climbing Pole
Made by his sister Danique. Make holes with the Dremel drill, braid thread through the holes and leave a long thread to climb the pole on top. Put toothpicks through the holes. And “hang” a paper puppet in the climbing pole.
Quite a heavy subject to write about, what is parenting? Because every parent is convinced of doing it right, and they are! Given the knowledge they have in store.
Raising children need skills. You can’t just take a child without any previous preparation. It is doomed to failure. When I go to a hairdresser to cut my hair, I expect at least that person has followed an education of four years. When the child is born, the mother is also born . What does your child expect?
When you are ready to start a family of your own, you will come in an acceleration of tips, advices and arrangements to make. Everybody around you seems to know more than you do. About what to buy, what to read and how the pregnancy will go and childbirth will feel. You may or may not go to the gym, what supplements to take. Take every advice in consideration and decide for yourself which one to follow.
There will be advices to give birth in a bath, but when you hate taking a bath in the first place, don’t follow this well-intentioned advice. Be sure you find for yourself the most comfortable and safe place to give birth to your child.
Do you need to go to a course to learn the skills about parenting?
Or do you need to read some books to learn how to become a good parent? Most of your parenting skills you learn from your Mom and Dad. How did they manage to get you where you are right now?
What are your thoughts? Did they do a terrific job? Or do you want to be a totally different parent for your child? When you want to do it totally different, it might be advisable to get yourself some books to read or trainings to follow, because the only thing you are taught is the way your own parents have done the parenting. And when you don’t learn how to educate your children in a better way, it’s quite common you will fall back into the same habits you want to avoid.
Parenting tips for toddlers
What do you need to address fermly and consequently when your toddler is between the 2 and 4 years of age.
I always go out from the situation that the child is 14-16 years of age, what kind of behaviour you want then, you address in the toddler time.
Throwing with toys
Rude talking back
Respect for the surrounding and environment
Kicking and beating
Respect for food
Tidy on clothing
Pick up toys
Sleeping in own room
Quietly and softly talking outside
Hygiene and potty training
Can you imagine when your don’t learn these 10 things to your toddler, what kind of behaviour your teenager will develope?
Positive discipline is rewarding good behaviour. As you can see in the video’s positive behaviour is being rewarded with balls and negative behaviour is punished with a time-out.
I use big thumb charts to reward the children for positive behaviour, and when they have 50 thumbs up, they will be rewarded extra for it.
There is no such thing as bad parenting. There is only such thing as a bad education about how to parent your child. And you become only a bad parent, when you see something is going wrong, and you refuse to learn all about it how to put things right.
And when it goes wrong, they do not have a reset button
To educate and socialize your children as a single parent can be quite challanging. Try to make good agreements with other care takers about parenting your children. Don’t ever make the mistake to start parenting outof guilt.
* read she, her or herself when it concerns a girl.
Parenting Style 1: Authoritarian
An authoritarian parenting style is characterized by a lot of rules. The parent is the boss and the child must obey. When the child does not follow the rules? Then he will be punished. Authoritarian parents do not explain the rules and give no room for discussion.
A child knows precisely what his parents expected of him. His parents are clearly in charge and decide what happens. Some children may (temporarily) benefit from an authoritarian upbringing.
A child may be frightened and docile by an authoritarian upbringing. Or rather rebellious and aggressive. In any case, a child develops low self-esteem and little independence. He doesn’t learn to reason why he wants something and can have difficulties to make the right decisions for himself. This kind of parenting can cause many worries. As the child grows, he will increasingly try to withdraw himself from his parents.
Parenting Style 2: Permissive
Indulgent parents have a huge attention to the wishes and needs of their child. They give their child in almost everyting his way. In fact, the child is in control and there are few demands on him. Parents who use this style, take their children seriously but themselves not (or at least their own rules not). You often see that the parents want to be their childrens best friend.
In this method of educating the parent and child are equivalent. Causes very few conflicts: the child can do(almost) everything.
Child of permissive parents are spoiled and don’t get boundries. The child gets little feedback, and doesn’t learn to consider others. Moreover, he doesn’t learn to deal with his emotions and to control himself, he can be sad, impulsive and aggressive. If the child goes to puberty, the educators may lose their influence.
Note from the writer: As a parent you need to take responsibility to lead your child away from making bad choices. You are the parent, not the best friend. So you have to act like a parent!
Parenting Style 3: Democratic (also called authoritative)
Parents set the rules and at the same time pay attention to the wishes and needs of their child are democratic or authoritative educators. They lead with love, take into account the development of their child and consult with their child. The rules that they make with them are justified with arguments. The child is supported and encouraged. Give your child love, without accepting any crap. And be sure that a boundary is not always a constraint. This kind of parenting is working with flexible boundries.
This parenting style promotes self-confidence and independence of the child. The child is respected as a person and his development is followed. There is mutual openness between child and caregiver. Children who are raised in this way are often happier and do better in school. They have fewer behavioral problems and are more resilient against the negative influence of some peers.
The democratic parenting style takes the most time and energy of all parenting styles. The child will not obey blindly the parent. He wants to hear arguments. That engagement in conversation takes time and patience. Parents and children must accept that their opinions do not always agree. The danger is that a child will be free and emancipated. And parents just keep talking and arguing to maintain instead of boundaries. With this kind of parenting, it can get outof hand when your child has a very persistent personality.
Parenting Style 4: neglectful
There are also educators who neglect their child. They make few rules. They provide little security, support, safety and engagement. The child is left to his fate: he can figure it all out all by himself.
Parenting like this is an escape to any responsibility in relation to the child.
Not much advantages. To pay no attention to a child is easy. A parent like that has many time for himself and his work.
A neglectful caregiver learns his child nothing. The child doesn’t learn what is wise or fair. With as result, the child is at risk of coming into contact with the wrong friends. In any case the child brought up in this way feels himself lonely, abandoned and unloved.
Top 10 parenting tips for what is parenting
Which choices will liquify into a disaster.
Mistake number # 1
Playing with your mobile, or from behind your computer and nod your head, or just keep watching TV while your child talks to you.
Your child will translate it into: I am not important.
Mistake number # 2
Criticism and condemnation to comment on the behavior of your child. What’s wrong with you? How many times do I have to tell you? Pulling a face displeasure. Recognition is the first step in the education.
Tell them, you understand what they go through, give recognition to the feelings of the child.
Mistake number # 3
Get angry when your child makes mistakes or if something fails then telling them that if it would have listened to you it would not have become such a mess.
Better tell them, I understand what went wrong, can I help you to set things right again?
Mistake number # 4
Too busy with your own pursuits and have no time to spend time alone with your child.
Make sure you have quality time with your kids. Enjoy the time you spend together, it goes faster than you think. Before you know it they left the house.
Mistake number # 5
The boss of your child.
Give your children choices or use humor. Let them in their own way of doing things, as long as it is not dangerous. Parents are here to educate children and to ensure their safety until they can do this themselves.
Mistake number # 6
Worrying about what others think and tell your children that the approval of others is important.
Teach your children to stop, before they do something and ask themselves, “What are the consequences if I do this” This skill will help them tremendously in their growing up. Imagine yourself, that your own child, a teenager, stops himself wondering, “What will be the result of unprotected sex?” “Or if I take this drug ” or if I drink and drive? “Or if I don’t study for an exam?”
Do you understand that these questions are much more important than “what will people say?”
Mistake no. # 7
To give your child only recognition for what he does.
Acknowledge your children for who they are, their qualities and character, not only for what they are doing. Tell your children that you’re happy to see them. You’ll find it delicious to spend time with them. It’s a joy to be with them. They are cozy and nice and they make you laugh. You feel at ease with them. That you love to look at them as they have fun with their brother or friend (s)
Acknowledge their trip, not only to their final destination. Their strength and dignity does not depend on what your child does.
I love you no matter what you perform. “
Mistake number # 8
Blindly take advice from family, friends or even experts. ”
Always ask yourself, “What effect would have it on my child as I frequently do or say what this person (friend, expert) tells me to do?”
Mistake number # 9
Tell your children that they should not cry or get angry.
Validate the feelings of your children. Say things like: “I know you feel sad at this time” or “That must really have hurt when …….” Or “You’re angry because I ………”
After validating feelings you can say, I advise you … .. because I love you. “If you reflect the feelings of your children back, they learn to honor their own feelings.
Mistake number # 10
Leave your child alone, walk away from your child. Let them emotionally alone.
Let your children know that you love them, unconditionally (that there exist no circumstance in which you would not love them) and that you are never angry with them. You’re just angry at what they have done (their behavior). Children feel totally different depending on what you say.
Avoid in any case to tell them: you are bad, or you are stupid. Or in the worse case, to say: I hate you. Tell them instead, what you did was wrong, and what you said was not that smart. And I hate it when you behave like that.
Embrace and hug your children often and tell them how much you love and appreciate them. Let them know that their behavior is not always good, but you will always love them.
Parent tips for reading, books about
“What is parenting”
Having a baby is a life-changer. It gives you a whole other perspective on why you wake up every day. Taylor Hanson
At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents.Jane D. Hull
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children. Charles R. Swindoll
Everybody knows how to raise children, except the people who have them.P. J. O’Rourke
Children should have enough freedom to be themselves – once they’ve learned the rules.Anna Quindlen
A blog full of questions, but you have to find the answers yourself.
Can we honestly tell our grandchildren that we didn’t had a clou? That we didn’t know about the melting icecap?
That we couldn’t prevent the fellingofancient forests?
That it is not our fault the water is getting polluted?
That we had no ways to save the environment?
Watch this impressive video from Prince Ea, after that we talk again.
I AM SO SORRY !
Yes we will be sorry.
Sorry we did ignore the facts.
Sorry we do not have a “reserve earth”.
Sorry we only think about our own gain.
Sorry we messed thing up.
For what? For MONEY!
Money rules the world. And we are without scruple, wittingly, destroying the environment.
Can we really point a finger to governments, to industries, to multy-nationals?
Ways to Save the Environment?
Do you think before you buy something?
Do you know where your food comes from?
How do you throw your garbage away?How much energy do you use?
What kind of footprint do you leave on this planet?
Ways to Save the Environment!
OUR KITSare at stake!
Overcome your fear, and spread this words! Use as much second hand articles as you can. Recycle what ever you can. Know we can change, stopandreverse this deadly process. I am as much responsible as others. Think before you do something. Save this earth by working together as one!
As you all by now know, it is not going so well with our earth. In thisindustrial age, we are all together responsible for the global warming
For kids, this is a difficult subject to understand. Because they are growing up in a time where everything, of course,is electrical. In this blog, I want to give parents and educators some handles to explain global warming for kids.
At first, I want to show you a little video which I found on the website of World Wildlife Fund. It counts from 1880 – 2005. And for sure this problem did not dissolve until now. It is a Dutch site, but the little movie does not need words.
Global Warming for Kids
When it comes to explaining global warming to kids, there are a lot of difficult words to explain. Words as greenhouse gases, dinitrogen monoxide, nitric oxide, ozone layer or carbon dioxide. I will leave them for what they are. I will attend the Kyoto protocol at the bottom of this article.
How can you, in an easy way, explain the global warming to them?
At first, you can start with the cause of what and who are responsible for the effect of the warming up of the earth.
The industrial progress, more and more industry
Cutting trees for our needs, p.e. paper – furniture – houses etc.
Our use of electricity
More and more people using cars, shipping and trucktransport
Megaproductionofthe meat industry
……about everything a human being thinks he needs
Wehave now determinedthe cause.
What can you do about it? I mean, in what way can every living person take its own responsibility.
You can be careful with your things and clothes, so you don’t have to replace them for new. And when you took care of your stuff, they are good enough to recycle.
You can recycle all your paper, that will save trees.
You can turn off the lights when you leave a room.
Or pull the plug out ofyourchargerwhennot in use.
Do not usespray bottles with (N2O)(nitrous oxide)
Put a warm sweater on before turn up the central heater.
Use a timer for the shower.
Teach your children to look where the groceries are coming from, are they local, or have they travelled all around the world?
Be an example and walk more, or take your bike.
Use your car only if you really have to.
Teach your children to say NO to all plasticjunkat the checkout.
The meat industry is the most harmful industry forourenvironment. Try to learn your children they will survive without a piece of meat every day. Even without any meat, they will!
You can vote! Yes, you can make a difference!
Everything we use becomes an attack on our environment because we are with 7 billion people right now. It is not one time a person throws away some paper. If everyone does that it will be 7 billion pieces of papers! 7 billion slices of meat! 7 billion chargers left in! 7 billion lights on!
Global Warming for Kids, the consequences when we do not listen to our scientists.
Floods caused by melting of Arctic ice
Extreme weather, hurricanes and thunderstorms
Diseases from bad air and water
Extinction ofanimals and plants
We get warnings from nature itself! The coral reefs are in a dying state. It is a warning the state of the seawater is veryworrying. We are getting super storms. Nature will warn us, over and over again, we can choose to listen, and we can choose to ignore it.
Global warming for kids resume.
In 1997 some top leaders came to the conclusion, there had to be a change. They came together in the Japanese city Kyoto.
Kyoto I. They proposeda protocolonhow muchpollution a country could make. A whole lot of countries would not sign this agreement. Because when you agree, you have to live up to it!
Kyoto II. Far from allindustrialized countriescomply withthe KyotoII, as many statesdid not participate inthe first protocol.In addition to the27 states ofthe EUthere areabout 10countries participating.
There are 195internationally recognizedindependent states. So 158 states are still not willing to change their habits to save the environment.
Largestates (andpolluters) asUnited States, Russia, Japan and Canada remainoutsidethe protocol.The countries thathave agreed to sign are accountable for about15 percentof global emissions.
158 countries will not agree to change their lifestyle. They are our world leaders and refuse to sign this extreme important agreement.
When we can make our children aware of how heavythe load is on our environment, the production and transport, our consumption, perhaps we can save our environment…..for their children’s children! Our own children are the world leaders of the future.
Teach the children well, and we can change the world in one decennium!
We live in a hectic world, continuously hurtling forward. Where stress and burnout are frequently occurring and difficult to avoid. When did you take the time to relax? Do you remember the last time you gave attention to the power of the subconscious mind? The last time you meditate or went just for a long walk through nature?
What do you teach your children? Do they know the power of the subconscious mind? Do you teach them the abilities when they use this power? Or do you have problems to acknowledge the power of the subconscious mind yourself?
My eye fell on these books on full-length, in full length audio-recorded books. Free to listen to.
Some people will say: “I don’t have time to read a book”. The convenience of an audio book is that you can do the ironing, the dishes or even clean the toilet and the bathroom whilst listening.
Power of the Subconscious Mind
The first book I want to share with you is “The science of getting rich” written by Wallace Delois Wattles.
About this author:
Wallace Delois Wattles was an American author. A New Thought writer, The best known work of Wallace D. Wattles is book called The Science of Getting Rich, published in 1910, in which he explained how to become wealthy.
After studying works of Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel and Ralph Waldo Emerson, Wattles claimed to have discovered the truth of New Thought principles. Before he published his book, he put them into practice in his own life. He lived every page of his books.
He encouraged his readers to test his theories on themselves rather than take his word as an authority. Creative visualization is the technic Wattles practiced. He “formed a mental picture” or visual image, and then “worked toward the realization of this vision”.
After Rhonda Byrne got a copy of this book as a present from her daughter, she wrote the famous book “The Secret”
The second book I want to share with you is “The Power of the Subconscious Mind” written by Joseph Murphy
About this author:
Joseph Murphy was born in Ireland, in 1898.
He immigrated to America and followed a study at the University of Southern California.
Dr.JosephMurphyshows howyour subconscious mindcontrolsyour behavior.The strengthin yourselfis based onpositive thinking andproves thateveryone is ableto live ahappy life.Keytopicscovered include: health, relationships,freedom, wealth, careerand cureaddictions.Thanks to thepractical tipsyou geta grip onyour subconscious, you make the best use ofthe power of thoughtandhappinessiswithin reach.
How difficult it is for children to lose graciously
How do you teach children to lose graciously? Wherever you look in this society, everybody is running a race. We are teaching our children that only “the best” counts. That losing is wrong. We praise our children for being successful, give them grades, and when they are not successful we are disappointed. Our educational system sortsour children onintellect, sports performance, andexternals.
The result is
Those children are going to be unreasonably mad when they are losing a game or a contest which reaches totally beyond their capability. That is not odd because we have taught them exactly this behavior by telling them from their earliest age that winning is important.
Let them feel
their inner beauty
they are important, whatever they accomplish
Let them know you appreciate their
Stop the rat race and the pressure to perform by
shifting your attention of the winning part to thesentientpart.
teaching childrenthat mutual contact is more important than winning.
playing a lot of games andemphasizethe atmospherearound it.
applaudingthe entire team, not just the onethat scores.
taking outthecompetition element.
You teach children to lose graciously by giving them unconditional love and attention. They do not to compete for your love by performing the way you want them to.
And do not ever tell your children:
you ARE naughty,
or you ARE stupid,
or you ARE unpleasant
I even heardafather say: “You are a pain in the ass.”
Tell them your BEHAVIOR is naughty, or what you DO is unacceptable, or what you DID was a bit stupid.
Because what they ARE and what they DO are two completely different things. It is very important you give your children self-confidence by telling them constantly who they are. And that you are leading them in their behavior
Teach children to lose graciously
by telling them who they are
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It can really amaze me how some children behave, and that some parents really do not understand how this behavior did arose. They really do not seem to get there own responsibility in that fact. When you do not have a clue why your child is misbehaving, it is time for some self-reflection.
Be aware of the fact, that every time you give in just for once, you have to correct misbehavior 30 times afterwards.
When your child can not sleep and wants to sleep in your bed, you are tired and say, oké, just this once…..
Your child is nagging for a sweety in the supermarket, and you give in just for once…..
Your child comes out of bed, and you let it watch TV for a while just for once…..
When you let your child play with unsuitable toys just for once…..
(unsuitable toys, your keys, remote controls, mobile phones etc. you better learn them from the earliest beginning to keep their hands of your and other people’s things)
Tips for parents before go shopping, when repeatedly everything goes wrong :
Decide before you go into the store, how you will react when your child will misbehave.
Make a list for what is needed and stick to it, so you can give your attention to the kids.
Talk to your kids before leaving and tell them which behavior you expect from them.
One child can help putting the listed groceries into the cart, the others will sit in the cart or have their turn the next time. When you let 2 children help, you are asking for a quarrel.
To keep their hands from anything in the store.
That you expect them to stay with you in the store.
That you will not allow nagging.
Make a deal and set an award before you go shopping and remind them, just before entering the store, to the bargain you made.
The award can be something like:
baking cookies together
extra tablet time
bathtime instead of shower
choose which veggie to eat
go afterwards to the park or playground
Do not start giving kids food in the supermarket just for once….
Do not tolerate any crap, like eyerolling, funny voices, baby behavior or nagging.
Child-Annoying-Behavior-Break-Bad-Habits-Tips- for Parents
Very important! Be attentive and give a compliment about every good behavior
Set up an award program
Be consequent, when they reach the age of 14, you can start negotiation.
Be sure you can carry out the restriction at once, do what you say you will.
Threat only with punishment you can implement
Give only punishment where you will not be a victum of
Negotiate is out of the question
Give a time – out
You can set up an award system, I use the “tumb-up” system, they get an award when they have earned 50 tumbs!
And they can earn them on every occasion where I like to see a change.
To mention a few:
Wash their hands after going to the toilet and turn of the light
Nice playing with each other for an hour
Without any quarrel walk to and out of school
Set the table for lunch
Neatlytalkno weirdwords, no smart mouth or talking back
Sometimes spontaniously, when their behavior is really helpful
The Boomerang Effect. An other way to address bullying. Everything you do will someday get back to you. Not in the same physical form but in the emotional feeling that is attached to your actions. We are all one in spirit, so it is a real possibility life works this way.
The Boomerang effect
Whén it’s going to come back to you, is not your choice, but that it does is for sure. The good feelings and the bad ones.
Teach the Children Well, so we can Change the Future in one Decade
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